She's Not Dumb, She's Autistic! I just finished watching "Bad Vegan" and have never felt so angry after watching a docuseries. I had to hold myself back from yelling at the screen. Everyone involved has completely missed the point. There's a huge misunderstanding here that I'm compelled to speak out about.
The case of Strangis and Sarma can be summed up thusly: A narcissist cons a beautiful, successful, emotionally vulnerable woman who is clearly on the autism spectrum. He initially showers her with positive attention - communication - the one thing that is hard to come by when you are autistic.
Autism in women is severely underdiagnosed, primarily because women are raised to be social so the autistic female child learns how to "fake it til you make it." Nod and smile, nod and smile. Therefore, women don't fit the stereotype of autism - Rainman, Sheldon Cooper, etc. Sarma exhibited all the classic signs of autism throughout. She talked about feeling like an outsider as a kid. She always found it hard to make friends or intimate connections. During her interviews, she is constantly fidgeting - stimming - to self-soothe. She has halting speech. She is an intelligent woman, capable of building up a successful restaurant with a unique twist. So how can someone so smart and successful fall prey to a lowlife conman? Easy. Because autistic people are gullible. Autistic people - even pretty, blonde female ones like Sarma and myself - can be easily swayed because we don't understand the rules of social interaction. Having a simple conversation with another person outside of work or family, can be a herculean task. So why did she stay on the lam with Strangis for a year? If my assessment is correct, then she may have been paralyzed with anxiety over the situation. Autistic people can feel so overcome by anxiety, that it paralyzes them, numbs them, and affects their judgment.
All of the commenters calling her a "dumb blonde" should be ashamed of themselves and have probably never established a successful, popular restaurant, either.
I, too, fell prey to a conman once. I met him one afternoon in 1993 when I was feeling blue and he talked me into hanging out with him. Before I knew it, I was being handcuffed to a tree in a park and raped. Long story short, this man was a serial rapist/murderer. And do you know how people in the legal system viewed me? Like a temptress. Like an uncredible witness who probably wanted consensual relations (for the record, I did not). That man is currently languishing in San Quentin. Forever.
Obviously I feel for Sarma and relate to her a bit. But I'm so disappointed in everyone involved in her story and in the making of this series that they were not able to "get it."