A Masterpiece Restoration of a Great Sicilian American Matriarch Matt Riddlehoover has directed one of the best documentaries -perhaps thee best documentary thus far of the 21st century. Not only is Riddlehoover meticulous and even handed, he has an artisan's eye for building an interview with archival footage, stock footage and ephemera eg newspaper clippings and letters. His extreme talent is why he was able to bring his beautiful grandmother in-law to life for all of us to know today. Her life has enriched enumerable people via this amazing documentary. We get in-depth interviews with Vivian Liberto Cash's four daughters; Roseanne, Cindy, Kathy, and Tara. We don't hear any other interviewees. This is important, because not only does it keep the documentary on a linear trajectory but who better to clear up all the lies and misinformation about Vivian Liberti Cash Distin than her own children?
Vivian prior to the release of MY DARLING VIVIAN was solely known via the vicious and false portrayal of her as a villain that was put forth in the hagiographic film WALK THE LINE and for the false and frankly bizarre lies surrounding her verified ancestral narrative. As Rosanne Cash puts it unstintingly, "my mother faded into the sort of negative obscurity."
In My Darling Vivian we meet a devout Catholic Sicilian American woman who was essentially running her own family household when she was a young girl because of her mothers alcoholism. She fell in love with Johnny Cash at 17 and they spent the next three years passionately in love long-distance writing letters literally to each other almost every day! He sang to her over the phone and even sent her real to reel tapes of himself proclaiming his undying love for her in song!
The documentary explains how they went from married couple to newlyweds to parents of two girls to Johnny Cash, becoming literally world famous within the span of about only 24 months. Most importantly, this destroys the entire Walk The Line negative narrative of Vivian. Rather than hate the music industry and Johnny's passion for music it's clear that Vivian supported him and his career 110%. She was with him (when she wasn't watching the children) at his shows, at the Ryman theater/grand old Opry, and was so proud of him. We see how the success allowed him to buy a home in Memphis and we see his stunning archival home movies of Johnny Cash, his parents and Vivian's family, etc. Vivian and Johnny were happy living a wondrously romantic and at times naïve mid century life.
As Johnny Cash became more famous, he began to challenge and speak out against injustices from the perspective of someone who had come (literally) from nothing. To some this may seem naïve now like Johnny dressing up as a Native American and claiming Native American ancestry, we know it was all sincere. Johnny Cash showing tolerance for the downtrodden didn't sit well with the original country music fans from the deep deep conservative south. The Far Right didn't like him hanging out with Bob Dylan, being part of the counterculture, etc. This is why they targeted both Johnny and Vivian whose marriage has been over three years before due to infidelity on the part of Cash. Not because Vivian was "Black" or "Mixed" she was definitely not - that's been verified via some of the most detailed genealogy out there. (The whole bizarre "one drop" "gotcha" aspect of one multi racial *second great grandmother* out of 15 all white great grandparents nonwithstanding-had Vivian been Black their never would've been a Johnny Cash.)
Vivian's true verifed narrative is an essential part of understanding her because the Sicilian matriarch, the devout Catholic, the devoted mother, and wife is an archetype. That's mostly gone now. It was a big part of the mid century, and how many women's lives were so family and home focused. Her paternal grandparents had both come over on a boat from Sicily and had built up a respectable grocery trade in San Antonio. Her mother, Irene Robinson, who was Irish, and German was an alcoholic and Vivian had to shore up the ends that she was not meeting as a parent in the household. This was not that uncommon during the mid century. Then we get a window into the façade that was the nuclear home, the suburbs, and later, the gorgeous home and the beautiful clothes, and the great matriarchs and what they had to endure. When Johnny Cash became famous infidelity, started pretty much from the get-go, and while Vivian was able to live with it for awhile eventually Johnny Cash just stopped coming home and then was maintaining a high profile relationship with June Carter. We see the anguish, the heartbreak of Vivian, and it is not easy to watch. This was an era where women depended on their husbands for everything, and couldn't even get a bank account without their husbands permission. Not only was her dream and her lifelong commitment coming to an end, but it would play out in front of the entire world the of the common "mythic" love story of Johnny and June.
However, Vivian was able to end marriage, and even if she was not fully able to move on the documentary shows how she made sure her daughters lives stayed cohesive. She continues on as a mother and a matriarch. At the very end of the documentary, we hear her own voice for the first time and she explains in her own words her view..
Again, I can't recommend this documentary enough. Just go in knowing that you're going to get nothing regarding the rumors. There's no "passing" or "hiding black ancestry" proverbial, gossip because that never existed and there isn't an unsupportive, bitter wife either there's just simply one very beautiful human being.