21 July 2008 | meena0047
Prioritization of Relationships and Establishment of Personal Boundaries
Gopal's (Shahrukh Khan)performance as a hard worker, responsible, romantic and a neglected husband was Outstanding.
Radha's (Maduri Dixit)performance as an unloving, uncaring and not understanding wife was Excellent.
Music, songs and dances were lovely and lively.
Gopal is a successful and prosperous business man. At the same time, he was a neglected husband because his wife Radha was obsessed with her Best friend, Suraj (Salman Khan); was overly concerned about him and was extremely busy taking care of him.
Suraj was a famous and demand singer but he depended on Radha for his emotional support.
On the second day of their marriage, Suraj who was in his thirties called Radha because he was having stomach problems and didn't know what to do about it. Negleting her husband, Radha was too busy giving her Best friend, Suraj step by step instructions how to take care of his stomach problems. She also told him to call her back if he was not better or gotten worse. How sweet!
After their wedding, Radha did not prioritize her relationships with her husband, brother and her Best friend. She always found the time for her Best friend, Suraj as to the point their behaviors interfered in their marriage.
At first, Radha did not want to go to Switzerland for their honeymoon because it was too far away, it was very cold and she got motion sickness. As soon as she found out Suraj was also going to Switerland, she became exceptionally excited to go to Switzerland for their honeymoon. She complimented her Best friend Suraj all the time but never complimented her husband, Gopal.
It is appropriate for married people to have friends with opposite gender but there should be an agreement between husband and wife to have friends. There was no agreement between Gopal and Radha for her to continue her friendship with her Best friend, Suraj. Her husband, Gopal was the last person on her list of relationships. A married husband had to burn his finger on a hot pan on the stove to get his wife's attention.
Gopal did not display any behavior problems before their marriage and he was not a "Complexed Man or a Bloody Weirdo".
A bedroom is someone's private space. Married or not married, a bedroom is not the appropriate place for brothers, sisters, parents and friends to communicate and to socialize with each other. There are common areas and rooms in a house where they could have communicated and socialized.
It was improper for Radha's brother to enter their bedroom and to sit on their bed to communicate with his sister, Radha. It was inappropriate behavior for Radha to invite her Best friend, Suraj into her bedroom. It was unacceptable behavior for her Best friend, Suraj to enter her bedroom. It was indecent for Suraj to take his shirt off in Radha's and Gopal's bedroom. Suraj and Radha respect personal boundaries.
It was so mean for Radha to give Suraj the shirt that she had bought for her husband, Gopal during their honeymoon. Later, Radha offered her husband, Gopal the red shirt that no one wanted.
Radha made a number of phone calls to Suraj on a daily basis but she never called her husband. Radha couldn't remember whether or not her husband liked coffee or tea but she remembered that Suraj liked Horlicks and wanted to make it for him. Suraj gave a birthday party for Gopal's wife when they were separated.
Yes, those were little things but little things add up. Radha was faithful but she never told Gopal that she loved him the most. Radha's and Suraj's inappropriate behaviors that they had displayed had definitely affected Gopal's emotional health.
Because Gopal was feeling jealous, was feeling insecure and was feeling inferior about his marriage with Radha, he wanted to able to sing like Suraj. After hearing Gopal singing, Radha laughed at him and told him that he didn't know how to sing but Suraj was an excellent singer.
Gopal loved his wife very much and was faithful husband to Radha. It was not appropriate for his Administrative Assistant to confide her marital problems to her boss and a married man, Gopal.
Yes, she had the right to love Gopal and no one could stop her from loving him, but he didn't have to accept her love. Even when she had made advances toward Gopal, he had rejected her advances.
Intentional or intentional, Suraj and Radha had misbehaved. They didn't examine their behaviors, but chose to label Gopal as a "Complexed Person", "Bloody Weirdo", Suspicious Nut" and "Crazy Man".
Suman who had never met Gopal said that he was not a good man; he was not a good husband and he was an arrogant man. She was not bothered by how many phone calls Suraj had made and received.
She was not bothered by it only because she was not engaged or married to Suraj. Suraj is still a "free man" and she had no right over him.
Yes! There is always a woman behind every successful man but Radha was obsessed with Suraj as to the point she neglected her husband.
When people get married, relatives and friends should back off a little to provide them the space and privacy they need to adjust to their married life.
Divorce was not the answer. It was good that Gopal asked Radha to leave because separation can give people the needed space and time to reexamine their behaviors and to sort out their feelings. I am happy that everyone who was involved was able to ask for forgiveness and to receive forgiveness each other.