I feel it is important to recognize the that Alexis Arquette is a woman. When referring to women it is appropriate to use terms such as she and her among other appropriate pronouns. She is an exciting women and I respect her decision to not enlighten us in every aspect of her life. What matter are these facts to us? This surgery is not paramount in life to many trans people, I included. The first year is the most difficult story to tell and I think we are privileged to have someone share their story with us. The transgender story is a risky one to share as there are so few opportunities for the audience to have a frame of reference to recognize the subtleties that incarnate the drama. I am not surprised or disappointed that many do not "get it." This movie is a needed platform to provide tools other than our imagination to recognizing just another human condition.