Old boy school story lingers into the 2000s Note: mild spoilers and healthy ranting [and at least one statement to make you laugh, & another to anger you]
Every non-hot teen / young male has the hots for at least one hot teen / young female during their puberty / adolescence / coming of age. The male who is capable of putting the scenario into perspective, learning to accept and like himself, and in turn, learning to open his eyes and love / respect the women who are around him and in his league, evolves into a healthy human being who everyone enjoys being in the company of.
However, there is the unhealthy male. This individual cannot move beyond the desire to possess and conquer the hot female and call her his own. He becomes an obsessive, bitter person, spiteful, feeling cheated because he did not get what he believes he rightly deserved. He dreams about her (which is fine), but then goes on to measure every female then and into the future by her [perceived] perfection. Instead of just accepting and enjoying the fantasy, once rejected, he holds onto the dream as if it were a reality and pines, dooming his possible relationships, never building a positive self-esteem, and in the process, ripping apart the self-esteem of every unfortunate female he intimates himself with after "the one that got away".
THIS is a movie that helps perpetuate such an unhealthy fixation. Instead of being based on reality, and helping the young male move through the rites of passage (early rejection) and heal via self-discovery and the discovery of others, it finishes the unhealthy fantasy re: the "underdog" ugly guy (who btw is almost 30) gets the girl (who is barely out of her teens -- coincidence?).
For once I'd like to see a movie where the ugly guy does NOT get the girl. Why can't a beautiful girl just be allowed to be beautiful? Why can't she get a good looking, successful guy, and live the life she is destined to have? Instead of being crammed into an old shoe, setting a horrible example for ugly guys who think they can get the hot chicks (and then treating average and ugly girls like dirt) and trapping pretty girls into feeling guilty for setting their ideals higher than the goof who cracks his neck in home room when he thinks no one is looking?
This is typical chauvinistic garbage being shoved down the throats of women yet again by Hollywood. Free the beautiful, average, and ugly women from your persecution! Let the average and ugly guy come to terms with his fate and learn to appreciate the women who are at par...
It is a scenario played out in Hollywood too often. Oppressive really. So many times there is the male, he has all the hoochie he could want, or, he gets the good looking girl who sacrifices all just to be with him, or, he is an old fart and NATURALLY the younger woman is who Hollywood saddles him up to be with.
Why don't you writers just do us a favour, and keep the old boy's club fantasies for your girlie magazines, and leave us women out of your brainwashing techniques? We don't need to settle.
What WOULD make a good movie is the stupid fixation fantasy gone right. Girl meets boy. Boy is a jack-off who has a stupid fixation. Boy thinks he is hot crap, and treats girl like refuse. Girl sees guy for what he is. Guy gets dumped. Girl goes on to meet healthy guy. Girl's best-friend, hot girl, does not get duped into staying with some ugly guy in some small town, settling for a mediocre life. Hot girl gets hot guy, moves to hot town, lives a hot life. Average / ugly girl remains best friends with hot girl, and they respect one another. No petty jealousy. Simply perspective, self acceptance, and genuine liking. They visit one another into their old age, sharing stories about their lives, careers, travels, families, and then the flash back to obsessive guy: compare him to healthy guy. Healthy guy is LOOKING FINE. Obsessive guy - pathetic.
Way more interesting story than stuffing a beautiful girl into an old sock. GRRR!
Signed, a beautiful girl not willing to settle & darn tired of 1950s drive-in movie propaganda - vivre la belle femme!
P.S. Kate Bosworth would look WAY better in her natural brunette hair colour. Free Kate! She is beautiful just as she is. Down with peroxide! Or better yet, shove it up the ante of whoever has duped her into changing her beautiful, natural, locks.