Masterfully Told / Camelot in a Relationship I saw this movie as a kid in the late '70s, then again in high school (early '80s). I loved the Harvard setting, and I loved the story. I was swept away, so to speak (and I'm a sports-playing, football-watching guy!).
I watched this again with my '90s-born daughter maybe around 2016, and it was a joke to her, and I sympathized. I was older in 2016, more mature, and movies have gotten better at story telling and editing. Also, the sensibilities of society had changed so much. Cheesy, I think, was our 2016 decision on the movie.
However, with my wife's curiosity the other night (2025), I watched it again, with her this time.
I've gained a great appreciation of this movie--I think greater than even when I had watched and loved it in elementary and high school. I enjoyed it more than in 2016, but also thought on it a bunch the next day. And, yes, it's one of those movies you think about through the next day. Below is why I appreciate it so much, and I'll actually be more brief than I'd like:
The story-telling of this--the arrangement--is masterful. First, the movie starts at the very end, and then flashes back to the beginning. And the beginning is the moment the two first meet. That's marvelous in itself. It means you learn about him at the same time and rate she's learning about him, and vise-versa. In this way, you experience the relationship as they both did, so you, as the viewer, actively live the relationship. It's not really a movie about his finding her, or her finding him. The point of view is from both of their sides.
Secondly, what this means is that the entire movie is about the relationship, and nothing else. The film starts and ends with the exact start and exact end of the relationship. No background and introduction, and no postlude and aftermath. Brilliant. The end of the movie leaves you to deal with it. It's open-ended.
Beyond the structure, there's the time-capsule aspect of the movie. The film shows so well the sensibilities of the era--1970--from clothes to that generation's view on God. Yet, it shows that generation's still-traditional view on marriage. Specifically: meet and date a person in college that you marry upon graduating. And, there's no stigma as there is today with that, no uncertainty, no "I need to self-actualize," no "I need to pursue and attain to my highest-possible level in the career my education set me up for, so I need to wait on marriage and kids" (while Oliver does this in some ways, he rejects a career-boosting case, and the film shows that his law degree and position at the law firm are not his focus, as it was for his father; his focus is on Jenny). But note how hugely different this is from today. Oliver and Jenny sacrifice other things. Their goal upon college graduation is marriage and then family. Career/work just sustains the marriage and family. Today, largely, that has been subverted. I'm old-school, and my wife and I did what they did, so to see this viewpoint, still intact in 1970 among two progressive, intelligent (Harvard/Radcliffe) people was refreshing.
In addition, the movie covers a lot of significant themes of life. One I just mentioned. A second is this question raised: does wealth and family history matter in the person you marry? A third is the everyone-goes-through-it question: how do you interact with your parents, and especially your father, as you're heading out and when you reach adulthood? Lots of mistakes by both Oliver and his father here, and it's a painful, but important display that viewers can learn from. I wish I had learned from it better for my college and post-college days. Side note: Oliver's relationship with his dad is really the only non-Jenny/Oliver aspect of the film, but it was necessary, because it's a large factor in Jenny and Oliver's relationship, so it adds much.
Tangentially related, the story serves as a warning to rash relationship-breaking with your parents, even for the sake of the "perfect" girl/boy/spouse. Jenny's grief over this and encouragement to Oliver about this is something to be noticed, pondered, and heeded.
Another aspect of the movie's beauty was its showing how two highly competent people can love, support, sacrifice for, and admire each other in life, instead of compete with each other, which can happen easily. This facet is for viewers in the good-example and instructive category, and was a sweet and satisfying aspect of Jenny and Oliver's relationship.
My final observation: excitement over a relationship, great joy, tragic sadness, and the overwhelming sense of "now being all alone, contrary to every expectation," are all so well done in this film.
Lastly, I looked up all the "stuff" on IMDB, and saw how wonderfully this movie was received in 1970. It was the #1 grossing movie of the year, won the Golden Globes for best movie, director, screeplay, actress, and song; additionally, Ryan was nominated for best actor. At the Oscars, all the same nominations, but only the song won. The critics of the time combined for a massive mega score on this movie--much higher than the 6.9 or whatever it gets now on IMDb. Roger Ebert, as a young man at the time, gave it a 100. My conclusion is that this movie was masterfully done, and did and showed things that other movies had not done up to that time. I also guess that it encapsulated well the feeling and mood of the day, combining it with a wonderful, joyful, and tragic story. It really is a quality, significant film. This makes me conclude that the lower ranking it now gets on IMDb is perhaps from those who don't like romances, and from younger people who are judging the film by modern standards, modern filmmaking, and certainly modern sensibilities about how a relationship and life are supposed to be. Don't pay attention to the IMDb ranking. Look at the extraordinarily high ranking given by the critics at the time of the film.
Watch this, and don't be judgey of the sensibilities of a previous era. Take it in, learn, and enjoy yourself. Be happy, intrigued, concerned, and saddened.