Time Changed My Mind When I first saw this movie in 2005, I really disliked it. I thought it was ugly and depressing. I've always liked Joan Allen and I didn't understand all the raves for this movie. I just rewatched it, after reading a comment on Reddit about *spoiler alert* the well. I'm a true crime lover and immediately wanted to rewatch it to see if there were any obvious suspects. So 17 years later, I've lost family, been really angry and paralyzed by depression and suddenly this movie makes so much more sense. I was creeped out by Kevin Costner's character back then and his drunken charm was lost on me. I see his character as someone struggling forward and not manipulative. I see Joan Allen's character as extremely bitchy but much more complicated and comprehensible.
So this is a rare film that ages well and really requires an older viewpoint. Seeing Evan Rachel Wood as such a young beautiful, talented teenager is so poignant, since I know what lies ahead of her. I would love to see more of Joan Allen - I do need to see The Family. Anyway, the acting is superb across the board and it is definitely worth a second look. "Anger and resentment can stop you in your tracks...It needs nothing to burn but the air and the life that it swallows and smothers...Hopefully someone wakes up one day and realizes they're not afraid to take the journey, someone that knows that the truth is, at best, a partially told story."